I Believe God Told Me Who My Husband Is

What should I do? (And how do I know if it’s my flesh?)

I believe God told me who my husband is

I’m being asked this question a lot lately. A lot of women believe that God has shown them who their future husband is and are unsure of what to do and how to handle it. So with much thought, prayer and reflection on the things I’ve learned from my own journey of having successfully gone through this, I’ve outlined some things to do (and not to do) and ways to know if it’s your flesh. And if you’d like to read my testimony of how God brought my husband and I together you can read it here.

[Disclaimer: Before I begin, I want to point out that – Everyone is not going to know beforehand who their spouse is (God does it differently for different people). Everyone is not going to hear an audible voice saying “that’s him” or “yes” (in fact be careful of that audible “yes” because your flesh can speak as well and disguise it as the voice of  God). And everyone is not going to have a dream(s) (many people have dreams and those dreams fail).]

  1. It is the man’s job to pursue/find the woman, so wait.

God’s word says in Proverbs 18:22, “He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord.” That means the man has to come pursue you. You have to allow God to reveal it to him and give him the go-ahead to begin pursuing you. It doesn’t matter how many confirmations you’ve gotten or how strong you believe it in your spirit, God’s word does not change; you are to wait for that man to pursue you. God told me two and a half years prior to my now husband approaching me about being his wife. Guess what I had to do in those two and a half years? Wait. If you believe that it’s truly God then you need to have the faith that God is able to tell him just like He told you. Even if things look completely opposite in the natural, have faith.

And don’t say you’re having faith while trying to give the guy hints and get all up in his face unnecessarily. Unless you want that relationship to be founded on flesh (seduction) or you want to mess up what God has planned, don’t do it (I talk about this more in #5). God didn’t tell you so that you can go tell him and start pursuing him. Your job is to simply wait and treat him like any other brother in Christ.

  1. If he does know (or you believe that he knows) that you’re his wife, don’t pressure him.

Let God give him full assurance of this and let God lead him on when and how to begin pursuing you. You want to make sure that he has FULL assurance so there won’t be any flip-flopping or going back and forth in your relationship about whether or not you two should be together. The last thing you want is a man who’s not sure if he wants to marry you; the results can be devastating. Don’t try to nudge him to go in the direction and pace that you’d like to go, give him space to LEAD as God leads him. Men are called to be the leader. As women we have a tendency to think we know better, we know what to do, and how to do it. But if we’re not careful we can take the reins and begin to lead in our relationships instead of allowing the man to lead. When you begin to do this you’re planting a seed in your future marriage that could cause a lot of chaos.

  1. Seek God for confirmation.

If God doesn’t give you confirmation right away, don’t be anxious about it; it simply may not be time to know more. Put it on the shelf. However, your greatest confirmation is for it to come to pass. Regardless of all the dreams, signs, and other types of confirmation you receive, if it does not come to pass all those confirmations mean nothing except that you heard wrong. I’ve heard of and know of other women who thought they heard from God regarding who their future spouse was to be, they got many “confirmations” and it turned out not to be from God at all because it didn’t come to past and/or the guy married someone else.

  1. Be very careful who you tell.

This is very important. Don’t go telling everybody who is willing to listen. I wouldn’t even advise you to tell all your close friends; all of them really don’t need to know. My Pastor told me during my time of waiting and knowing that the more people you tell, the more opinions you have to battle with and the more seeds will be planted in your heart regarding what you believe God told you. I’ve seen situations where a girl will believe she knows who her husband is and half the people in the church will know, not because God showed them too, but because she told them. I never understood that. There are some people who may tell others because they want it to be known by all the other women that such and such is “taken” so they shouldn’t try to think he’s their husband too (which is silly and shows a lack of faith). But this is only a recipe for disaster. First off, if those people you tell are not mature enough to keep secrets, it will spread and eventually get to the guy’s ears. Secondly, if they’re not spiritually mature enough, you could end up getting false confirmations from them or the people they tell that you don’t know they told OR they could give hints to the guy. False confirmations will only lead to false hope. You don’t want any false confirmations; you want real confirmations from God.

Instead of telling all your friends (or half the church), choose people who you consider as wise counsel to keep you accountable and who can pray with and for you regarding it. It could be your pastor, a mentor, a female leader in your church, or a mature sister in Christ – someone who you trust and look up to spiritually. I chose to tell my pastor and a few other leaders in my church (once I was sure that this word was from God) so that if they saw me slippin’ and trying to get too close to Davon (who then was just a brother in Christ) or saw me acting in my flesh in any way, they could tap me on the shoulder and tell me to watch myself. To me that was wise. I didn’t want to put any confidence in my flesh or give the enemy any room to play. “In the multitude of counselors there is safety” (Prov.24:6). And I told my friends when I felt led to tell them, and in fact, for nearly the first year and a half of the two and a half years that I knew, none of them knew – and when I did tell them, I only told TWO of them. Trust me, when it comes to pass you’ll get plenty of chances to tell everybody how you “been knew,” LOL.

  1. Be careful and mindful of your interactions with him.

This is another important one. In other words, don’t try to act in ways to give him hints and clues to get him to know. When you do that you’re pretty much saying, “God I know You gave me this word but I really think that You need my help to bring it to pass, so let me help You out a little bit. By you trying to give him tips and clues it shows that you don’t really trust God to bring it to pass.

One thing God showed me about that when I was in my waiting-doubting-faith process (yes, it was all of those things in one) was that you’re really operating in a spirit of seduction when you try to go around the guy more, try to get closer to him and try to give him hints and clues to point him in your direction. You’re seducing (persuading) him with your charm, good looks, intellect, or whatever, to get him to look your way and notice and take an interest in you. You’re pretty much being a stumbling block to him. When you “catch” a man with your flesh, you’re going to have to continue to use your flesh to keep him. Your flesh is literally going to be the foundation of that relationship. When your good looks, charm, or whatever it was that you used to catch him fades or he no longer takes interest in them, nothing will make him stay with you; he’s disinterested now (but a real man of God would not even fall for that). You want the foundation of your relationship to be the Word of God which never fades away! The word that God spoke to you, He’s able to speak to him. Be patient. When he receives that word, he’s now bound to that word which God spoke. That will create a much greater covenant than your looks could ever create. And yes he will be attracted to you physically but you don’t want that to be the only thing that sends him your way. You want to make sure that he knows that he knows that he knows you are his wife from the Lord!

Now you may already be close to him or have a friendship with him. That’s good. I’m not saying to separate yourself from him. What I’m saying is let your friendship remain as it is and let it develop NATURALLY. Not by force. Don’t try so hard to get it to be how you want it to be. Don’t try to force your way into his heart. If y’all talk every so often, keep it like that and let your relationship develop at the pace that God wants it to develop at. In my case, I didn’t have a relationship with Davon when God revealed to me that he was to be my husband. He was honestly just another brother in the church; I didn’t know him much at all. But one of my prayers during that time was, “Lord if this man is who You say he is, then create a situation where we can become friends cause I don’t want to marry someone I’m not friends with.” That was one of the confirmations that I requested from the Lord. And sure enough, months later, I transferred to another college which happened to be his university (unbeknownst to me). My church had something back then called “Go Get Cain” which was pretty much us evangelizing together on our college campuses between and after classes. The first few times we did it, it was myself, Davon and 1 to 3 other people. After a few weeks, no one else had time to do it with us so most days it was just me and him. Look at God! I didn’t force it, I didn’t ask him for his number, I didn’t try to find out where he was so I could coincidentally be there at the same time, etc. As I was being obedient to God in doing what He placed heavily on my heart to do —evangelize on my college campus – we were able to NATURALLY develop a friendship. GOD SET IT UP! I didn’t set it up, God did. He answered my prayer and that for me was a huge confirmation. And ever since then we remained friends up until the time he approached me about being his wife.

My point here is, don’t get in the way of what God is doing, put your flesh to the side, and let God lead you in your interactions with the guy. As you obey God in what He has you doing He can naturally allow you to develop a friendship. Let God write your love story; don’t take the pen out of His hands. Only He knows your ending form your beginning.

  1. Don’t be anxious about it and keep your emotions in check.

Don’t let it become your focal point and be consumed by it. Worrying about it is not going to make it come any quicker. He really didn’t tell you so that you could worry about it. If you really believe that it’s God, choose to have faith instead of fear and worry. And it’s natural to be excited about marriage but don’t allow it to become ALL you think about. Letting your mind become consumed with thoughts about the dress, the ring, your future home, and children, how he’s going to propose, being in his arms, your first kiss, etc. will only cause you to not be able to hear from God clearly. Your mind will be cluttered. That can be dangerous especially if you’re not completely sure if he is your husband. All those thoughts are only a breeding ground for false confirmations. Your excitement will make you think certain thoughts are from God when really they’re from your flesh. And then on top of that, they will be a distraction from your relationship with God. So whether you believe it’s God or you’re not completely sure, letting these thoughts run rampant will have a negative effect on your relationship with God and in your real life because you literally have your head in the clouds all the time. Those thoughts will only grow in your mind more as you feed them and will eventually lead to lust and idolatry. You don’t want that, so once again: keep your emotions in check.

And no, it is NOT ok to have lustful thoughts about him even if you’re sure he is your husband. Lustful thoughts unchecked will lead to even more lustful thoughts, sexual dreams, and will lead you to eventually want to act out the thoughts through things like masturbation and may cause you to start being a stumbling block to your brother. Put absolutely no confidence in your flesh. One advice that a wise woman of God gave me concerning the issue of lustful thoughts was to see him as my brother. In actuality, until you are married, he is still just your brother. Seeing him in that way will help you to keep the thoughts in check. 1 Timothy 5:1-2 says, “…appeal to older men respectfully as you would your own father. Treat younger men as you would treat your brothers. Treat older women as you would your mother, and treat younger women with all purity as you would your own sisters.”

  1. Put it on the shelf and continue to seek and serve The Lord

Put it on the shelf and leave it there. If it be of God He’ll bring it to past in due time. Like my Pastor says, “you do not have to police it.” Meaning you don’t have to monitor the word, watch over it, or anything like that; it’s God’s job to watch over HIS WORD. Isaiah 55:11 says, “So shall My word be that goes forth from My mouth; It shall not return to Me void, but it shall accomplish what I please, and it shall prosper in the thing for which I sent it.” It’s His word so it’s His job to perform it (bring it to past).

So rest; continue to be about your Father’s business. Don’t waste your singleness waiting for or worrying about a husband. Put the time to good use. There’s so much more God wants to do in your life in this season of singleness. Go on some trips, have some sleepovers with your sisters in Christ, have group Bible studies, have hours and hours of uninterrupted worship time, evangelize, minister…be about your Father’s business!! There’s sooo much you could be doing right now. Your life isn’t all of a sudden on hold once God tells you who your husband is only for it to start back up when you get married. No. If you don’t know what to do, ask God what He wants you to do in this time. Most likely it will involve you getting closer to Him because whatever He wants to pour into you now you will need for your next season. Once you get married you’ll have less time to yourself, so use the time wisely.

  1. If you’re not completely sure, keep an open heart that you could be wrong.

Don’t have a tight grip on it; we’ve all missed God at one point or the other. When you’re not sure about something that you believe God told you it’s wise to keep in mind that you could be wrong. When you have an open heart about it you’re more likely to hear the truth about it from God because you’re not fixed on it and you don’t have a tight grip on it. It’s better to err on the side of caution and say in your heart that you may be wrong until you’re sure than to immediately assume you’re right without solid assurance and to later find out that you were wrong all along. And if you find out that you were wrong don’t beat yourself up, learn from it so you don’t repeat the same mistake and move on.

How to know if it’s your flesh:

  1. You have a pattern of thinking one person is your spouse, which proves to be wrong, and then you move on to another person, then another, then another: Stop!! There’s a deep-rooted issue here. You’re trying to force yourself into a season of marriage when God is clearly saying it’s not your time. Marriage has become your idol. You’ve had dreams, received words, saw visions, and got “confirmations” about all these guys that you thought were your husband at one point and they ALL proved to be false. Clearly, there’s something wrong here, your flesh is deceiving you. Let God take that issue out of your heart and teach you to be content in the season that you are in.
  1. You are desperate to be in a relationship and desperate not to be alone: You keep finding yourself in the arms of some man. You can’t seem to be able to stay single and enjoy it. This is a huge issue because often times when you’re desperate the enemy will send a counterfeit — an Ishmael to fulfill your desire for a man and you’ll end up walking right out of God’s will for your life and acquire all these issues because of it.
  1. You’re willing to compromise just to be with someone: So you convince yourself that this is who God has for you. When you’re willing to be with someone at all costs (even a particular person that your heart is fixed on), your mind will literally LIE to you and tell you that God “said” this man is your husband. And because you want it so bad you’ll run with it. Mortify your flesh. Put your desires on the cross. Fast and pray for God to remove it; it could end up ruining your life.
  1. You’ve gotten several red flags but you’ve been ignoring them: I know this should be obvious but some people really do ignore the clear red flags. PAY ATTENTION to the red flags!!
  1. Insecurities: Your insecurities constantly drive you into the arms of a man or constantly have you thinking about a man. Chances are that God wants to heal you of those insecurities before He begins to deal with you about a husband.
  1. God has not been dealing with you about being married to an earthly husband and it’s clearly not your season for it: Sometimes God will deal with you about marriage but it’s in regards to being married to Him, not to a physical husband. But some of us when we first hear Him talking to us about marriage we run with it and start trying to guess who our husband is, then end up with all these false dreams, false confirmations, and soul ties. Sit down and get further clarification from God because if you have not yet learned to be a faithful wife to God, you will not know how to be a godly wife to your earthly husband.
  2. God clearly told you he ain’t the one: (I know, I know, this should be sooooo obvious, but there are actually women out there who will disobey the voice of God when it comes to this.) Oh, he’s so nice and so fine, he’s such a man of God and he fits perfectly into your “list.” That still doesn’t change what God told you. HE AIN’T THE ONE!! And if that list is mostly carnal stuff then you might want to get rid of it ‘cause it’s leading you astray.  If you’re willing to disobey God even after He clearly gave you instructions, you have bigger problems than wanting a husband. If you’re disobeying Him with this I’m sure there are other areas where you’re being disobedient. Don’t let your flesh override what God has told you.

Update (February 28, 2019):

I have received so many questions and emails since writing this blog post. I just wrote a second part addressing some of those questions. Read ‘I Believe God Told Me Who My Husband Is – Pt. 2’ here: Part 2

180 thoughts on “I Believe God Told Me Who My Husband Is

  1. I am not sure about this one whether it’s really a sign or what . On 1st Nov 19 (Friday), I remember when I wrote down my ideal type in my note book . After that, I prayed to God to reveal my future husband (what does he looks like, etc) . After a few days, I don’t even remember I’ve prayed about that dream . Surprisingly, on 8th Nov 19 (which is Friday again) I had a dream where I was with this good looking guy holding hand with each other, never had those feelings before (overload happiness) when I was with him . It was weird because I’ve dream about a lot of guys before (like dating, etc) but I never got the same feelings as this one . He never said anything to me but deep down inside of my heart I knew he was my future husband, and the most shocking part is after I woke up I was really happy inside but sad at the same time because the dream ended so fast (lol) . I was thinking about it and suddenly remember something, I checked my note book again and I found out that the guy in my dream is actually the same as the ideal type I wrote .

    Not only that, I wanted to tell this to my friend but I was hesitate so I didn’t said anything . After a few weeks, she suddenly brought up in our conversation about a dream she had which was about a girl and a guy were holding hands together . She said the girl looks a lot like me but she doesn’t really remember the guy’s face . I was really shocked but I asked when did she got that dream she said it was on October .

    I am still not sure now.. It might be a coincidence .


  2. I just want to thank you for posting this! This is powerful and encouraging. I recently was praying over my future husband and going into scripture and as I was praying a clear, visual picture of someone popped into my head. We hardly talk, I actually never thought much of him. It sent me into a weird thought process. Then I decided I probably wasn’t the only person to experience this! And this is exactly what I needed to put myself back in check! God’s time, his way, his power!
    Thank you sister!


  3. I don’t believe God tells us who our spouse is.

    I used to believe it but I don’t anymore.

    I believe God GUIDES us to people that will be good for us. God didn’t tell Adam to marry Eve. God PRESENTED Eve in front of him, and he CHOSE to marry Eve and she RECIPROCATED that choice.

    I’m not saying the author of this blog heard wrong, maybe because we’re human beings it’s just her interpretation of hearing from God. Obviously it was a good choice for her and her now husband. They were committed to glorifying God and God blessed that by invoking feelings of romance supernaturally. (May you both continue to serve the kingdom while you are here on earth.)

    I believe if it’s true for God to reveal who our spouse is, then it wouldn’t be possible for people to remarry (due to divorce, being widowed…) we wouldn’t have the freedom to have CHOICE!

    I pray I get married, I hope I get married, but I also want to be able to be ok with it if it’s not what God wants for me.

    Ladies, don’t overthink it. Just give yourself the love you can’t receive from the world. You take God’s breath away, You are His beloved masterpiece. Husband or no husband, that will not make you any less valuable to God. Be a good steward over all the people who are already in your life and in the one time interactions. Amen!


    • Wow!!!! Sis I love your perception. I also believe in God directing us to someone, not necessarily choosing for us precisely. If not the failures/success of marriage will be his sole responsibility.

      Thank you for sharing this too❤🙏.


    • Eve was the wife of Adam before God brought her unto him. God made them specifically for each other. He made them one. Bones of my bones. And flesh of my flesh. For this reason a man is to leave father and mother and unite or cleave together to his wife. They consummate the marriage and become one flesh. Adam could have said no. But he would have been in disobedience to Gods will. God could have taken several ribs from Adam and give him a choice who to marry but he did not. The choice belongs to God. We need Gods approval and for him to lead and guide us to that person. But people need be careful. Satan will send counterfeits. God will tell you who is your husband or wife if we ask him and put our trust in him. But we have to be able to hear the voice of God. Most people seek permission from the state to marry but fail to seek God and his approval. But who God joins together ❤ is that person he created just for you. A helpmeet is a wife. A suitable fit. For Gods glory.


  4. Thank-you for your post. It has really enlightened me. On January 2020, I had a dream and God promised me a job and a husband. Later on He gave me a job on 28th January. On February, hecommunicated again about my marriage that by the end of the four months He shall give me the man of my heart desires. Every night I dream about it, I remember one day inviting people in my marriage ceremony but I cannot see the groom, a sound came from heaven saying that God has released my husband but there is a block. The following day again, I dreamt, my mentor speaking about my marriage, she told me how marriage is good and I should remove the hatred in me about men. A sound came from heaven again telling me about marriage and the couples I should emulate. Kindly assist me on this because I feel confused. Thank-you!


  5. Hi everyone
    I don’t know how to explain this situation.
    I’m doing direct selling and has a friend who is a wife of a Apostle.
    I do visit her regularly, there is this guy at house who is visiting, he is playing keyboard.
    For the past 2 months that he is visiting at my friend’s I never looked at him in a other way. But since last week i found him attractive, i also started to develop feelings for him.
    What attracts me to him is, he is spiritual, he has a beautiful voice and he loves.
    Do you think its fair to fast for him as my future husband


    • I am late because I just stumbled upon this. I think you should definitely go to God with fasting about it. Just don’t let that man or anyone else that knows him know you like him because that could make things awkward if he does not feel the same. If he feels the same hopefully he will eventually do something about it. In the meantime don’t put your heart out there.


  6. Thanks for this article. I’m so grateful cos I almost made a mistake of my life which could av landed me in a terrible mess. I saw a guy in my dream, he’s a close friend tho, we do virtually everything together, but we aren’t in any romantic relationship, he’s also not in a relationship, we are both single and searching, he’s a devoted christian and I love his commitments to d things of God. He has been appearing in my dreams for like 3 times now. I almost felt compelled to tell, intact your article literally kept me in check. I w him, but that could av been the worst mistake of my life, i will wait until God’s will is done.


  7. Some really great points and I admit I learn a few things from this, like not sharing with people who can’t plant negative seeds, however your husband should be someone one you love undeniable if he’s sent from God he will love you and will be attracted to you like no one else right, you know it’s from God, so it’s a duty and you have to stay, it must be someone you love undeniable I believe that’s a part of the whole package, the man is the leader that’s something God showed me as well
    Thanks for sharing


  8. Wow!
    What words of wisdom is this?
    I have learnt so much from this blog. Thank you sis for allowing God to use you greatly to impact positively on Single ladies.

    God bless you 🙏❤😊.


  9. Thank you for your message. I wish I had seen this earlier.
    There is a guy in my church.. He found interest in me and told about it. I asked him to give me time… But during that time I didn’t value his value for me so at a point he said to me he wouldn’t love me anymore because I wasn’t giving him a positive answer. Now I’m in love with him he says it’s too late but I also feel he still loves me. What do I do?


  10. Thank you for your message. I wish I had seen this earlier.
    There is a guy in my church.. He found interest in me and told about it. I asked him to give me time… But during that time I didn’t value his love for me so at a point he said to me he wouldn’t love me anymore because I wasn’t giving him a positive answer. Now I’m in love with him he says it’s too late but I also feel he still loves me. What do I do?


  11. Hey! I’m gonna share a little of mine, how God has bless me and always protect me from bad guys, God is really amazing if you have a faith in him; he does amazing work like he did in my life. So what happened is that, I don’t know if is it temptations, because i ruin my mental health from social media, I met a guy few months ago on social media & he was from another country it was just a normal chat, but we chatted a lot I didn’t knew that I will fall for him, because he was so sweet at first, he told me that how beautiful I was and told me that if was his wife he would be lucky to see me everyday, I thought it was real. But it wasn’t I was wrong to believe it, he never loved he was just using me for lust, to satisfy his sexual needs. I was so shocked that how can a person be so heartless and emotionless, I told him that I loved him so much, even without meeting him in person, but he broke my heart into pieces when he told me that if I loved him, I need to prove myself by sending him my nudes ( i was fumed, betrayed, all most felt like an outcast. Immediately I knew that he is not a man from God, he was just a temptation for me because if I had dated him, he was gonna hurt me. So God pushed this guy away from my life, because God loves me and he don’t want me to waste my time on someone who is gonna hurt me, because he have a good man for me ahead in my life, and I’ll be patience to meet this man who will love me, like I always wanted.
    So what I mean to say that, When God send you a man he will be holy and spiritual and infact God will bring both of your soulmate that he choose.
    My other experience was; there is a man who texted me first on Instagram, I knew him from before since childhood but I don’t think he knows me well, so we first chatted with a hey and hello, I didn’t reply him for days because I was felt like every guy is gonna hurt me, I ignored his message but deep inside of me I felt bad that I didn’t text him back, but what shocked me was that, I dreamt him almost three times first I couldn’t remember well, but the second dream was like I was in his house, I talking to his mom, and even his sisters were there, then I saw he was coming from outside as I went up to him to tell him I was so sorry that I didn’t text him back , right after he saw me he ignored me & went off to his room and he was so upset. The third dream was, like I was going through Instagram and I was searching his username and his profile picture was other girl I guess it was his girlfriend. I was so shocked that I’m my dream though we were not even friends in real life, we didn’t even text well but I felt like I was in love with him in my dream I was jealous to see another girl in his profile on Instagram, and few days after I checked his profile picture it was same girl I saw in my dream though I couldn’t remember the face really well, can someone please tell me is it, all this dream are from God or? Should I text him again ?


  12. So I met this guy when I just started uni (let’s call him guy A). He was so handsome so I fell for him at first sight. We never actually talked but I had a crush, I daydreamed about him and looked through his pictures on social media. After a while I stopped liking him and started crushing an another guy then that crush ended and I started crushing on another guy again (let’s call him guy B)
    I really liked guy B. I liked him way more than other guys I’ve crushed on. I was actually in love with him. He was a great guy. We were kind of friends and I knew for sure that he liked me I was just confused as to why he hadn’t made a move yet. I started to pray about him, for God to make him mine soon and all that. The dreams I had about were not bad per say but they were not good either. We always started a journey together but never ended it together. I would always look for him but I would never find him at the end of the journey.
    I started to pray about my future husband in general. I asked God to reveal him to me. I told God I wanted guy B but I’m willing to accept anybody he gives to me. In one of my dreams I saw myself in a relationship with a guy I really loved and we were very much in love and happy together but someone in the dream told me that I wouldn’t end up with the guy I was with but someone else, the guy he showed me was some one I knew and I was really disappointed because I wanted the guy i was in a relationship with (in the dream). He told me (in the dream) that the guy that I was going to end up with was a kind and loving man (that was the kind of man I always prayed to God to be my husband)
    I continued to pray for God to reveal my future husband to me and I would always see guy A in my dreams. When I finally realized that God was telling me that guy A was my future husband I was really disappointed just like I was in my dream.
    I haven’t told anyone yet about what God reveled to me. I’m not even sure if it’s a revelation. This is a guy I crushed on mainly because he was really good looking. We’re friendly with each other but I can’t really call him my friend. Since my revelation I’ve had zero interest in dating other guys. I feel like if he’s my future husband then why should I waste my time with other guys. I feel like I should wait if he’s the one God wants for me but what if I’m wrong and end up missing a great person because of him. I don’t feel comfortable talking about it with other people but since you had a similar experienceI thought you can maybe give me some advice.


    • I actually posted a tiktok about this just now. God-given visions will be filtered through a biblical lens

      “Dear friends, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see if they are from God, because many false prophets have gone out into the world. This is how you know the Spirit of God: Every spirit that confesses that Jesus Christ has come in the flesh is from God, but every spirit that does not confess Jesus is not from God. This is the spirit of the antichrist, which you have heard is coming; even now it is already in the world.

      They are from the world. Therefore what they say is from the world, and the world listens to them. We are from God. Anyone who knows God listens to us; anyone who is not from God does not listen to us. This is how we know the Spirit of truth and the spirit of deception.”
      ‭‭1 John‬ ‭4:1-3, 5-6‬ ‭CSB‬‬

      You were saying you were crushing on this “Guy A” mainly because of his looks, that is not a spirit from God because God judges the heart not physical appearance (1 Samuel 16:7) As far as I’ve seen and searched (AND PLEASE CORRECT ME IF YOU FIND SOMETHING ELSE BECAUSE I CAN BE WRONG TOO!) there is no vision in the Bible pertaining to a future spouse. This is not to say that God will not give us the things we hope for and desire but know that God is not our personal assistant; he is God.


  13. “At midnight, Boaz was startled, turned over, and there lying at his feet was a woman! So he asked, “Who are you?” “I am Ruth, your servant,” she replied. “Take me under your wing, for you are a family redeemer.” Then he said, “May the Lord bless you, my daughter. You have shown more kindness now than before, because you have not pursued younger men, whether rich or poor. Now don’t be afraid, my daughter. I will do for you whatever you say, since all the people in my town know that you are a woman of noble character.”
    ‭‭Ruth‬ ‭3:8-11‬ ‭CSB

    I have not read much of your article but I came across it in a google search and I wanted to say a man does not have to pursue (You said that while quoting Proverbs “A man who finds a wife”) his wife first. It is a quality that will go well for the man (obtaining favor from the Lord) but in the story of Ruth and Boaz it shows that the woman made that first move and out of that came the line of Jesus Christ our Lord! You can reach out to me if you’d like but just wanted to bring that up!


  14. Greetings From Mr.&Mrs.W From London,UK .
    A long Blessed union a story short. When I first meet my kingdom husband, I had a couple of friends that I was talking to and meet my husband after he approached me in the midst of lots of people around and it was so different and I could feel and see his spirit, the hollyspirit allowed me to do that but I wasn’t thinking or new rather or not if he was my husband. It was further then on my mind LoL! He gave me his number and had like a very positive aura to him and I could sense that he was in deed a man of God and patient. We talked over the phone for a while and would pray and fast together. We’re both equally yoked but to rewind, I had a dream of this man but he was tall muscular Caucasian man from London,UK and I’m being a black women and thought that it was just a random dream but I saw myself marrying him but I couldn’t see his face very clearly so I could not describe my husband facial features. This dream was about 5 to 6yrs before I meet my husband. Fast forward, later on my husband when we were dating and keeping ourselves holy for each other for our honeymoon, My husband revealed and told me that I was his wife and that he new that I was his wife when he first laid eyes on me. I asked him HOW ? And said that the hollyspirit pointed me out literally and said there she is and she is your wife, this was at a big gathering and we had never meet before. In the midst of so many other women and I’m from the states U.S. God is so amazing. And God later on some months after praying in the spirit and asked God to reveal and show me if what I was feeling in my spirit is my husband and if any of the two friends that I was speaking over the phone wasn’t my husband to remove them from my life so that they wouldn’t be a distraction to us. The two friends just fall off and my husband stuck to me to each other like glue and showing the godliness in him and acting out and felt as if we were already married at that time. Then some more past as we were still praying and fasting together as we still do today but God gave me a prophetic dream, I’m a prophetic women of God anyway but I meet and spoke with Jesus for the 2and time and Jesus as the bible describes him approached me and he started talking about husband, I asked our father are you my husband and he smiled and told me that I am not your husband but to enter a certain room and to lay down close my eyes, his voice wavered like waves , so amazing but then Our father instructed me to open my eyes, so opened my eyes and my husband was laying right in front of me and then I opened my eyes again because we weren’t living together at that time. But now we have 9 kids and counting some adults but were still having more kids as off right now. So we just think God for our union is Blessed and found favor in God and we place him first as our everything. We give all of the Honor and glory to God for his kingdom of heaven for ordaining our marriage and placing and merging my husband and I together. It wasn’t an easy journey at first but God is so good all times. We are both son and daughters/ Christian of Jesus Christ. God Bless Everyone! Faith in God trusting his timing fasting and praying living a righteous sin free life, No sin, you can not live a life in sin and expect for God to send you your kingdom husband or wife so I hope that this encourages allot of you all on your journey. This our Testimony of our coming together Our kingdom Marriage! God Bless Everyone!!!


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