This is my very first blog post and I am super excited to be starting this new journey!
Since so many people have questions about how to go about having a godly relationship and I am a big advocate of doing relationships God’s way, I thought it’d be best to start by sharing the testimony of how God brought my now husband and I together. I was led by God to write the first part back in March 2013 about 8 months after we got engaged and to share it on the Pinky Promise network and on social media. The second part is the update of how God supernaturally provided for our wedding and how things are going now since we’ve become husband and wife. It was truly a miracle how God brought us together and our testimony has blessed many people so far. I pray that it blesses you as well!
I was only 19 years old when God began to tell me who my husband was. I knew that I would get married one day but I thought it would be later in life like at the age of 24 or 25. So when God began to tell me that this guy was my husband I thought it was the devil and/or my flesh. I fought against it hard but it didn’t go anywhere, God continued to confirm it over and over. Eventually I received it. God told me to patiently wait and that in His timing He would reveal it to the guy and have him come to me. At the time I was in a ministry that taught about the no boyfriend/girlfriend revelation. That God is not down with it and it’s not God’s order. God is able to give you a spouse without you test driving several different people. Simply keep your eyes on the Lord and He will reveal and bring your spouse to you in His timing. He is the one that chooses for us and He already knows who the person is therefore He does not need our fleshly assistance. As my pastor would say, ‘You are not boyfriend/girlfriend material you are husband/wife material. God does not play house, He build’s families.’ God confirmed to me Himself that He desires for relationships to be done differently, not like how the world does it. So I complied with His order and did not date. And sure enough when He saw fit, in His timing, He revealed to me who my God-ordained husband was.
Within the time span of waiting there was much dying to my flesh, God did a lot of purging, pruning, and showing me wicked things in my heart; I learning what true worship was and how to live out a lifestyle of true worship. God stripped me of many things even in the natural so that I had no choice but to depend on Him and draw closer to Him. He took me through a very painful process of transformation (John 12:24). I learned that God was my husband and dealt with Him like my First Love. I learned how to pray, fast, intercede, make war, and stand strong through trials. It was a process that took great patience and great faith because there were times where I doubted the word and because I did not know when it would happen I had to learn to trust God like never before and not care how long it took. It was first and foremost about my relationship with God, He was using it to build me up in Him. It was more than just getting married, God was using this to build up my faith, strengthen my spirit man, and prepare me for where He was taking me in the Kingdom. God will use whatever trial or situation He desires to use to get you where He needs you to be, and for me this was one of the things He chose to use. IT WAS ALL FOR HIS GLORY!! NOT JUST TO GET A RING ON MY FINGER OR GET MY LAST NAME CHANGED BUT TO BRING GLORY TO HIMSELF THROUGH MY LIFE!!
Fast forward about 2 ½ years, the very same brother in Christ that God revealed to me was my husband, called me one day and told me that God revealed to him that I was his wife. Not once throughout the time of waiting did I tell him or give him hints. NOT ONCE THROUGHOUT THAT TIME DID WE DATE AROUND OR DATE EACH OTHER. God allowed us to be friends during that time but I still had to wait on God to tell him. It was not easy, it was very hard. I cried, doubted God and asked God ‘why me?’ many times. There were times I would have rather not known but God chose to tell me ahead of time and through God’s strength I was able to wait until the word manifested. GOD IS FAITHFUL, HE KEEPS HIS WORD!!! IF HE SAID HE WOULD DO SOMETHING AND HAS CONFIRMED IT MANY TIMES, THEN KNOW THAT HE WILL DO IT AND CAN DO IT WITHOUT YOU GETTING IN HIS WAY!! We have been engaged now for almost 8 months and from what God has been revealing to us (and what He revealed to me in my time of waiting), godly marriages are for a greater purpose!! You can’t just wanna get married just to have sex and live a comfortable life!! If you can’t pray, stand in the gap, make war, worship, love God more than a spouse, die to your flesh, live holy, obey God, sacrifice, etc., then you’re not ready for marriage. Marriage is ministry. God is using the two of you to prepare one another for the return of Christ!! He wants to use your marriage as a ministry to others to cause them to come to Christ. It’s not just about you, it’s greater than you. IF YOU ARE NOT KINGDOM- MINDED WHILE YOU ARE SINGLE THEN YOU WON’T BE KINGDOM MINDED WHEN YOU GET MARRIED!! Everything that God does has purpose; it’s not about pleasing and tickling our flesh. Trust God’s timing for your life; don’t try to run ahead of Him. What you have planned for your life may not be what He has planned. I didn’t think I’d be engaged by the age of 22, but here I am. AND I DIDN’T HAVE TO DATE AROUND TO ‘SEE WHAT I LIKED’!!! GOD ALREADY KNEW WHO MY SPOUSE WAS, AND WHEN HE SAW THAT WE WERE READY HE BROUGHT US TOGETHER, WE DIDN’T BRING OURSELVES TOGETHER!! God had it all written down in His book before we were even born, but it all depended on our obedience and surrender to His will and plans for our lives. God knows what’s best for His children.
FAST FORWARD TO TODAY, ALMOST 2 YEARS LATER AND NOW MARRIED FOR 7 MONTHS!!!!…..
So my husband and I got married on June 28, 2014! We shared our FIRST KISS on our wedding day AT THE ALTER after we said “I do,” meaning we also did not have sex until the wedding night and I was able to save my virginity for my husband!! The way God brought us through our engagement, wedding preparations, and wedding day was AMAZING!!! For one, we didn’t have a dime for a wedding but God clearly let us know that He wanted us to have a wedding. We didn’t know how it would happen or where the provision would come from but we had no choice but to trust God. We had to believe that if He could bring us together the way that He did then He would provide for the actual wedding AND every day after. So we planned and planned as if we already had the funds, we saved what we could when we could, and we talked about dates and some of the things we wanted in our wedding. I personally had many thoughts of doubt and unbelief just because things were not looking like we would be able to have a wedding and of course there were those who spoke against the whole idea of us getting married at that time. In spite of my doubtful thoughts and people’s opinions, God continued to assure me (us) that He would provide. Fast forward to the end of our engagement……by the time the wedding came around God had provided supernaturally as He said He would — He had people give us fat checks left and right and had people give and do some things for us for FREE. We had around 336 wedding guests, a wedding ceremony and reception with more than what we expected, a nice long honeymoon, no left over debt but instead money left over to use for after the wedding, and most importantly the presence and blessing of God was there!! The total cost was about $22,000 and none of it came from our pockets!!!! (A laborer is worth his hire, right?) It all literally came from God! He said He would provide and He did!! Not only that but God used the wedding ceremony and reception as a way for us to minister to our guests about how He put us together and how He provided. And He most definitely used it to bring our faith to a whole new level!
If you’re reading this, know that God is a miracle working God who wants to be involved in your relationships and wants to be the One who writes your love story. Trust Him. Your story may not be like mine and God may not provide for you the same way that He did for us, but trust He’s already written it out and He already knows how He wants to provide for you. All He needs is your obedience. He can’t work with you and give you His best for you without a heart of obedience. Trust His times and seasons for your life. Because we obeyed God in bringing us together, trusted Him through our season of engagement, and upheld godly standards, He did ABOVE AND BEYOND what we expected!! Experiencing Him move in such a mighty way in the beginning of our relationship enables us to trust Him through our marriage and for the rest of our lives together. We serve an AWESOME and MIGHTY God!!