To date or not to date? To have a boyfriend/girlfriend or not to have one? What is God’s view on dating (and boyfriends and girlfriends) and what does the Bible have to say about all of this?
From Genesis to Revelation, you see three (3) types of
(romantic) relationships: Single, engaged (also known as betrothed), and
married. We do not see dating in scripture or anything like it. The only place
where we see something similar to dating mentioned is in John 4:18 when Jesus
was talking to the Samaritan woman and He told her that the man she was with
now was not her husband – it was exposure and a rebuke for being with someone
she wasn’t married to.
Some might argue that in that time period and culture, things were different, so dating was not at all acceptable. That’s true, however, when you read the word of God and see God’s standards for how we should live in our bodies, how we should relate to and treat one another, and the topic of sexual immorality, it points to a Kingdom culture and standard that debunks dating as we know it today.
A few weeks ago, I was spending time with God and thinking
about my life – the current state of my life, the different parts of my life
and the people in it like my husband and our marriage, our church and church
family, our natural family, our finances, etc. Then a few questions came to my
spirit – which I know were from God: What
if these things were to fall apart? What if important people in my life began
to leave or fail me? What would be my response to God? Would I run from God and
abandon my relationship with Him? Would I become angry and bitter with Him
because people I trusted in disappointed me or let me down?
A few years ago, I wrote a post titled I Believe God Told Me Who My Husband Is, about what to do when you think God has shown you who your husband will be and how to discern if it’s just your flesh. The post has gotten a lot of traffic, many comments and I have received many emails with stories and questions. I’ve gone through some of the comments and have heard many stories from different people about this topic, some good, some not so good. This is a topic that isn’t talked about much but so many people (males and females) go through it and don’t quite know what to do. In this post, I will tackle a few more commonly asked questions and situations that I have come across. I pray that it brings even greater clarity and it helps many discern if their flesh has been deceiving them. Continue reading
Happy New Year!! It’s officially 2019 and the first month of the year has come and gone pretty fast! I hope your new year started off great, and if it didn’t you still 11 months to make it right. For the first blog post of the year, God has really placed on my heart to talk about disappointment and how to overcome it. In fact, I was considering another topic but God confirmed a few times that this was what He wanted me to write about this month, so I know someone needs to be encouraged in this area, especially as we go into this new year. My hope is that this post helps you to identify the source of your disappointment, overcome it, and give you strength to hope again. Continue reading
I can’t believe 2018 is just about over. This year went by pretty fast. As I reflect on this year and everything that has taken place, all I can do is be grateful to God for the good, the bad, and the ugly. Overall this year has been a pretty good year for me. Everything that I wanted to happen didn’t happen, but major prayers were answered, I experienced growth in some areas and healing in other areas. God has been good, and He has been with my husband and I every step of the way. 2016 was a very rough year for me where I had to press past a lot of difficult situations and went through some very intense fire. So 2018 has been a year of continued healing and restoration from 2017 and it’s been a year of God reminding me over and over that His promises are yes and amen even after a very trying season. Continue reading
Sometimes on my birthday, The Lord will give me a word to meditate and stand on for the new year of my life. It had been a couple of years since He gave me a word on my birthday, but this past June when I was celebrating my 28th birthday the Lord gave me the word GRACE. He had me to really meditate on the past few years of my life and everything that took place during those years. Continue reading
Are you in a long season of waiting and wondering if God has forgotten about you and the things He has promised you? Or are you looking around at what He’s doing in the lives of others and wondering, “God what about me?” As God began to download this topic in my spirit, I could sense that some of you are feeling this way. Some of you are wondering where God is, if He will come through, if what He promised will come to pass, and why things seem to be moving for others but not for you. Continue reading
Happy New Year! I hope you all had a great start to your new year. I’m so excited for 2018 and all that God has in store for this year, I truly believe that some great things are going to take place this year. At the beginning and ending of each year I find myself doing a lot of reflecting – I reflect on my life thus far, the previous year, my journey with God thus far and how far He has brought me. Continue reading
Hey Jesus Worshippers! I pray your Thanksgiving went well and you enjoyed time with family and friends.
A few weeks ago, I was a guest speaker on a podcast and spoke on the topic of ‘Defining Success Through God’s Standards.’ It was an awesome show and topic and I’ll link the podcast below once it’s available. The topic of the podcast reminded me so much of my journey of learning that God’s definition of success is much different from what the world calls success. I wish I knew then, earlier in my journey, what I know now. Continue reading
I don’t know a single believer who has never faced a stormy season. Every believer must go through them, it’s just something that we can’t escape. When you’re going through a storm it’s so easy to feel like you’re all alone and to just want to give up. It’s easy to forget the goodness of God and it’s easy to get in your emotions. If the storm is severe enough, fear and hopelessness can overtake you to the point that you even begin to contemplate options outside of God (been there), but there is always hope. Continue reading