For the last
few weeks, the word peace has been in my Spirit. Every time I would ask
God what He wanted me to write about this month, He would say “peace.” I
didn’t completely understand what aspect of peace He wanted me to write from, but
as I waited, prayed, and spent time in His presence, He made it clearer.
As we all
know, there is so much taking place in the world and in the church right now,
there are many things being discussed on social media that’s causing much
debate and division even among believers. There are many things pulling for our
attention, and many things seeking to distract us. Sadly, things are not going
to get better, things will only intensify in the coming weeks, months, and
years. As the Bible has prophesied, many events will take place before the
coming of our Lord. There will also be a great falling away in the church (2
Thess. 2:3), which is slowly taking place before our eyes. Events are taking
place all over the world to set the stage for the coming of The Lord.
In a time
like this, we have to make sure that we are connected to God, we have to make
sure that we are not distracted by all the noise of the world and the things
taking place in our personal lives. We have to make sure that we’re truly in
tune to the Spirit of God. There are many things vying for our attention, our
devotion, and our time. And while we should be discerning, alert, and aware of
what’s going on around us, we also have to make sure that our resting place is
in the presence of God. We all have to make our home is in His presence.
To date or not to date? To have a boyfriend/girlfriend or not to have one? What is God’s view on dating (and boyfriends and girlfriends) and what does the Bible have to say about all of this?
From Genesis to Revelation, you see three (3) types of
(romantic) relationships: Single, engaged (also known as betrothed), and
married. We do not see dating in scripture or anything like it. The only place
where we see something similar to dating mentioned is in John 4:18 when Jesus
was talking to the Samaritan woman and He told her that the man she was with
now was not her husband – it was exposure and a rebuke for being with someone
she wasn’t married to.
Some might argue that in that time period and culture, things were different, so dating was not at all acceptable. That’s true, however, when you read the word of God and see God’s standards for how we should live in our bodies, how we should relate to and treat one another, and the topic of sexual immorality, it points to a Kingdom culture and standard that debunks dating as we know it today.
What is my purpose? People ask this question a lot nowadays.
It seems like everyone, both in and out of the church, is trying to discover
their life’s purpose. That’s great, and I do believe that God has a purpose for
allowing each of us to come into this world, I believe He has things that He
wants each of us to do on the earth and He knows the plans that He laid out for
each individual person. I also believe that until a person fully surrenders
their life to God, they won’t fully walk out the plans that God has for them.
Purpose is an awesome thing and we all want to live life with
purpose; we all want to live full and fulfilled lives and do things that we
love. However, I also believe that what we in the church today have defined and
labeled as “purpose” is not purpose but assignment(s) and sometimes gifts He
has given us to carry out those assignments. Christians often say things like,
my purpose is to be a teacher, a preacher, to be a millionaire, a wife, a
prophet, a lawyer, a businessman/woman, to travel the world and preach, etc.
But in actuality, according to the Word of God, those things are not our
purpose, those things are our assignments. When you are in Christ and called
according to HIS purpose (see Rom. 8:28), those things can’t be our purpose
because they aren’t HIS PURPOSE, they are assignments.
A few weeks ago, I was spending time with God and thinking
about my life – the current state of my life, the different parts of my life
and the people in it like my husband and our marriage, our church and church
family, our natural family, our finances, etc. Then a few questions came to my
spirit – which I know were from God: What
if these things were to fall apart? What if important people in my life began
to leave or fail me? What would be my response to God? Would I run from God and
abandon my relationship with Him? Would I become angry and bitter with Him
because people I trusted in disappointed me or let me down?
There’s an old hymn that says, “Turn your eyes upon Jesus, look full in His wonderful face, and the things of earth will grow strangely dim, in the light of His glory and grace.” This hymn is so beautiful and powerful because it talks about focusing on Jesus instead of the things of this world and the things we go through in this world. I’m noticing more and more lately that people have made serving Jesus about everything else except Jesus. We’ve turned our eyes to everything else in this world other than Him. We are in a time where everyone is trying to “be the best you,” live their best life now, and obtain all that they can obtain through Jesus, but have forgotten that the true blessing is Jesus Himself and not the things that He can give us or do for us. We’ve confused the things that He can give to us as the blessing instead of seeing Him as the true blessing. We’ve forgotten that the greatest gift He could ever give us is Himself. Continue reading
Sometimes on my birthday, The Lord will give me a word to meditate and stand on for the new year of my life. It had been a couple of years since He gave me a word on my birthday, but this past June when I was celebrating my 28th birthday the Lord gave me the word GRACE. He had me to really meditate on the past few years of my life and everything that took place during those years. Continue reading
My heart breaks to see so many women (and men) of God go in and out of bad relationships that leave them broken and confused. I hear so many stories of people of God going from relationship to relationship and getting the same outcome that the world gets in their relationships. I believe that as people of God we have an advantage that the world does not have, and we can easily avoid getting into these situations. We serve a God that knows all and sees all. He knows the deepest things of our heart that even we don’t know, and He sees what is truly in every person’s heart. Our God is more than capable of forewarning us about someone before we enter a relationship with them or simply telling us that we are not ready. Continue reading
Last week I got the chance to be a guest speaker on Right to R.E.A.L. Love Podcast, I spoke on the topic of ‘God’s Purpose For Relationships.’ I believe it’s so important to know God’s purpose for bringing two people together in marriage and His purpose for establishing relationships altogether. Sometimes we want something, but we don’t know God’s intended purpose for that thing. And when we don’t know the purpose of something it’s easy to misuse and abuse it. Continue reading
I often get a lot of emails from women asking me questions along the lines of “what do I do while I’m single and waiting for God to bring my husband?” These questions are often from women who have recently decided to stop dating and are now waiting on God concerning a spouse and/or those who want a quick fix way to God releasing their husband to them. Some of the questions are from those who genuinely want to honor God through their singleness and others from those who may just want to find answers to quickly end their singleness in a “godly” way. Continue reading
So many things come to take our attention and steal our focus from The Lord. Life can throw many things at us that cause fear, worry, doubt, hopelessness, anxiety and more. Throughout my years of walking with The Lord, I’ve gone through many seasons of highs and lows. It was in one of my darkest seasons that God taught me how to focus on worshiping Him in spite of my circumstances, how to worship Him through the pain, through the tears, through the persecution, the misunderstanding, the disappointments and the embarrassments. Worship is what got me through. Continue reading