immorality – lust, perversion, masturbation, pornography, fornication, sex
dreams, etc. – we’ve all experienced it in one form or the other. Earlier on in
my walk with the Lord, I have personally dealt with sexual immorality in
different ways. Although I remained a virgin until marriage, I dealt with lust
and masturbation which of course led to sex dreams and fantasies. I had to
first acknowledge that it was a problem and that it was a sin before God before
I could be delivered from it. Even though I wasn’t having sex, it was still not
pleasing to God. My deliverance came in many stages and it took A LOT of
self-denial. There were times where it seemed like I took 2 steps forward only
to go 4 steps back. It was tough and it took some time for me to fully get
free, but I did eventually get free by the grace of God.
There came a point that I got sick and tired of getting beat up by the enemy and giving in to my flesh, so I started to deal with the issue head-on. One of the main things that helped me to overcome was finding Bible verses about the topic and using them to fight. I would write them down, memorize them, meditate on them, and recite them especially when the temptation arose. I learned to war with the word of God and pray the word of God over my mind, my emotions, my body, my soul, and against the fiery darts of the enemy. Some days the battle was so intense that I would have to recite them to myself while looking at myself in the mirror. There were even times that I would have to recite them every day, several times a day, and especially before bed.
To date or not to date? To have a boyfriend/girlfriend or not to have one? What is God’s view on dating (and boyfriends and girlfriends) and what does the Bible have to say about all of this?
From Genesis to Revelation, you see three (3) types of
(romantic) relationships: Single, engaged (also known as betrothed), and
married. We do not see dating in scripture or anything like it. The only place
where we see something similar to dating mentioned is in John 4:18 when Jesus
was talking to the Samaritan woman and He told her that the man she was with
now was not her husband – it was exposure and a rebuke for being with someone
she wasn’t married to.
Some might argue that in that time period and culture, things were different, so dating was not at all acceptable. That’s true, however, when you read the word of God and see God’s standards for how we should live in our bodies, how we should relate to and treat one another, and the topic of sexual immorality, it points to a Kingdom culture and standard that debunks dating as we know it today.
What is my purpose? People ask this question a lot nowadays.
It seems like everyone, both in and out of the church, is trying to discover
their life’s purpose. That’s great, and I do believe that God has a purpose for
allowing each of us to come into this world, I believe He has things that He
wants each of us to do on the earth and He knows the plans that He laid out for
each individual person. I also believe that until a person fully surrenders
their life to God, they won’t fully walk out the plans that God has for them.
Purpose is an awesome thing and we all want to live life with
purpose; we all want to live full and fulfilled lives and do things that we
love. However, I also believe that what we in the church today have defined and
labeled as “purpose” is not purpose but assignment(s) and sometimes gifts He
has given us to carry out those assignments. Christians often say things like,
my purpose is to be a teacher, a preacher, to be a millionaire, a wife, a
prophet, a lawyer, a businessman/woman, to travel the world and preach, etc.
But in actuality, according to the Word of God, those things are not our
purpose, those things are our assignments. When you are in Christ and called
according to HIS purpose (see Rom. 8:28), those things can’t be our purpose
because they aren’t HIS PURPOSE, they are assignments.
A few weeks ago, I was spending time with God and thinking
about my life – the current state of my life, the different parts of my life
and the people in it like my husband and our marriage, our church and church
family, our natural family, our finances, etc. Then a few questions came to my
spirit – which I know were from God: What
if these things were to fall apart? What if important people in my life began
to leave or fail me? What would be my response to God? Would I run from God and
abandon my relationship with Him? Would I become angry and bitter with Him
because people I trusted in disappointed me or let me down?
Hey everyone!! So as you can see, the Heart of Worship Blog has gotten a huge revamp and a fresh new look!
At the end of 2018, God placed on my heart to take this blog to another level. One of the things He placed on my heart to begin doing is videos. So here we are with the very first video teaching!
There’s an old hymn that says, “Turn your eyes upon Jesus, look full in His wonderful face, and the things of earth will grow strangely dim, in the light of His glory and grace.” This hymn is so beautiful and powerful because it talks about focusing on Jesus instead of the things of this world and the things we go through in this world. I’m noticing more and more lately that people have made serving Jesus about everything else except Jesus. We’ve turned our eyes to everything else in this world other than Him. We are in a time where everyone is trying to “be the best you,” live their best life now, and obtain all that they can obtain through Jesus, but have forgotten that the true blessing is Jesus Himself and not the things that He can give us or do for us. We’ve confused the things that He can give to us as the blessing instead of seeing Him as the true blessing. We’ve forgotten that the greatest gift He could ever give us is Himself. Continue reading
A few years ago, I wrote a post titled I Believe God Told Me Who My Husband Is, about what to do when you think God has shown you who your husband will be and how to discern if it’s just your flesh. The post has gotten a lot of traffic, many comments and I have received many emails with stories and questions. I’ve gone through some of the comments and have heard many stories from different people about this topic, some good, some not so good. This is a topic that isn’t talked about much but so many people (males and females) go through it and don’t quite know what to do. In this post, I will tackle a few more commonly asked questions and situations that I have come across. I pray that it brings even greater clarity and it helps many discern if their flesh has been deceiving them. Continue reading
Happy New Year!! It’s officially 2019 and the first month of the year has come and gone pretty fast! I hope your new year started off great, and if it didn’t you still 11 months to make it right. For the first blog post of the year, God has really placed on my heart to talk about disappointment and how to overcome it. In fact, I was considering another topic but God confirmed a few times that this was what He wanted me to write about this month, so I know someone needs to be encouraged in this area, especially as we go into this new year. My hope is that this post helps you to identify the source of your disappointment, overcome it, and give you strength to hope again. Continue reading
I can’t believe 2018 is just about over. This year went by pretty fast. As I reflect on this year and everything that has taken place, all I can do is be grateful to God for the good, the bad, and the ugly. Overall this year has been a pretty good year for me. Everything that I wanted to happen didn’t happen, but major prayers were answered, I experienced growth in some areas and healing in other areas. God has been good, and He has been with my husband and I every step of the way. 2016 was a very rough year for me where I had to press past a lot of difficult situations and went through some very intense fire. So 2018 has been a year of continued healing and restoration from 2017 and it’s been a year of God reminding me over and over that His promises are yes and amen even after a very trying season. Continue reading
Victory is defined as the overcoming of an enemy or antagonist; achievement of mastery or success in a struggle or endeavor against odds or difficulties; a win over an opponent or over difficult problems. There’s no doubt that God has called us to live victoriously. He has called us to be victorious over Satan our enemy, over sin, over our own flesh, and victorious in life overall. But if you look at the state of many in the church, you would think that it’s normal to fall into the same sins over and over for years, to have one foot in God and the other foot in the world, to be double-minded, to proclaim Christ but never really grow to look like Him, and to constantly feel defeated by the enemy. Continue reading